It’s Not You: How Our Family and Marriage Survived a High-Risk Pregnancy and Three Months of Bed Rest
When you really stop and think about it, pregnancy’s a magical thing. So many things have to go right for all those 40 weeks and during all that time, you’re literally growing another human being in your body.
But the reality of it all is that it very rarely all goes as planned. In our case, you’re better off hedging your bets that things will inevitably go awry in our pregnancy. My uterine anomaly almost guarantees that none of my pregnancies would go smoothly.
While our first pregnancy was miraculously a 39-week journey, it lulled us into a false sense of security that our next pregnancy would be just as lucky.
When I was pregnant with Charlie, I could never have foreseen three months of laying in bed, let alone nine weeks of solitude, away from my family and friends–while being hormonal, to boot!
As we were living our 12-week ordeal, there were so many things my husband Diego and I left unsaid to each other—words of thanks, and even of resentment. We were in survival mode back then, but now we’ve agreed to finally let it all out. For healing, for posterity, and maybe for inspiration to other couples who might be going through something similar.
We’re so grateful that StoryCorps decided to hold quarters in Orange County and our home city of Irvine in the last quarter of the last year of the 20-teens. It just seems fitting that we preserve something so important and pivotal to our family at such a pivotal time.
Diego and I got raw and honest during our interview, and it was so amazing how open we both got in that quiet booth where we had no escape from the questions and where we had to face each other and talk about our fears, frustrations, and thoughts during our grueling pregnancy.
If you’re going through a high-risk pregnancy, know that you’re not alone. And if you’d like to hear from someone who’s been in the trenches and emerged–not unscathed, but united and stronger, nonetheless–give our interview a listen.